Note: This article is originally available in Persian language.

Sometimes writing gets so difficult, especially when you're writing about something you haven't tasted well, I myself haven't been a murderer neither murdered and never a relative of the murdered. I know for sure we must struggle for all three. The murdered is gone, but two chaoses are left for the family; one is admitting their child's death second is admitting the death of their child's murderer. But the murderer remains with one chaos; and that's all his days ahead until the time of revenge, what I'm writing is the result of the moments I've thought without any compassion about the murder and the parents of the victim.

Parents of the victim: when a father and mother are informed that the one for whom you have spent all your life and loved so much is no more living it's so hard for them to believe, even the murdered itself can't believe he's not alive anymore and let go of his parents. Who can blame them for this?

I have to mention here that we sometimes see in articles of some "said to be" activists shouting out that the parents of the dead one are made of stone. We should consider that they have lost their child they're right to be sad. The main point is that a murder is not acceptable by its nature. And it's doom. On the other hand we may all have experienced that when we get angry we lose many abilities. For the parents of the murdered this anger lasts years. During this time the nearest decision that comes to their mind is revenge. Besides all this the pressure put on them from the environment, keeps them in a situation between revenge and forgiveness. Sometimes this pressure is so much that the others' attempt to get their agreement has an opposite outcome.

Murderer: as mentioned before anger is one of the main factors in decision making in such situations. We've seen frequently that our decisions through anger are totally by emotions. Especially in the teenage time control on anger seems even much harder due to lack of social experiences in the youth age. May be I can discuss it this way that essentially most of the murders specially among youth aside from the type and the way it happened , takes place in an atmosphere out of wisdom. Emotions take the place of thought at the time of happening and lead to a murder.

We can't say in this situation that this teenager is a murderer since there is no will in anger. We've seen on the other hand that we regret our mistake after the anger calms down and seek for compensation. Putting all of being a murder pains away the worst trouble which comes to a murderer is when he understands the mistake he has made. No time for make-up neither an ear to believe. Standing the words, their looks, sometimes bad words and wanting the life from the other hand is so heavy that he dies many times before the revenge is done. After confirmation and announcement of the sentence it seems that the main pain has come. Days and nights seem longer, and he remains floating between hope and fear of life and death, and the longest night is the quarantine night, the night after which is the day of the capital punishment. We have seen this feeling several times in the eyes of the convicted teenagers.

When we talk about the attempt for a solution the first thing to consider may be prevention, we should reduce the causes such as poverty, low culture and such things to minimum. In analysis and trying for affecting the parents' decision their respect and personality should be considered, and it also shouldn't be assumed that the blood will be spoiled, since they are supposed to taste the sweetness of forgiving not us. Facing a murder, all field factors such as his age and the explanation of the story should be analyzed and in fact a flexible read law should be there to see the different aspects and set a fine on its basis. Believing besides that the one who committed the crime can regret it, after admitting his mistake it's selfish to say "it's good for him". Renovation doesn't always take place by punishment; it sometimes is only ignoring the question and a sign of irresponsibility. Besides all these, the best way to reform may be forgiveness after noticing regret.